Change Your Sexuality, Change Your Life

Your lifestyle is based upon choices you make consciously or unconsciously. Are those choices fear-based or love-based? These choices affect everything we do including how we draw breath. Notice your breathing right now. Are you only breathing into your upper lungs? (Fight or flight.) Or is your belly softly expanding with each inhale?

Looking at our problems and what’s “wrong” with us may become a lifestyle.

We don’t necessarily have to go looking for what happened to us in our childhood. We can sometimes get addicted to that and then therapy itself can become a lifestyle. As we move toward joy, aliveness, and pleasure, if there’s something in the way, it will show up. And when it does, the childhood wounds now have a positive loving container for healing and nurturing that is beyond the old “box.” Let’s call the “box” the dominant cultural paradigm of unconscious beliefs, agendas, expectations, and habits.

Healing can be so much more than merely the absence of pain or symptoms. Most of us don’t realize what’s possible or the depth of energy that is available to us when we heal our sexuality from this sex-negative cultural conditioning. When you change your sexuality, you change your life. Imagine a new lifestyle beyond healing the personality to actually sharing your gifts and light with the world. Over the years, I’ve witnessed many clients moving beyond their blocks and sharing their newfound loving energy with the world. Some have used this new energy to teach, to enliven their relationships, and to take positive action in their lives with confidence.

How do we get there? One ingredient is by having a daily practice of heartful awareness and acceptance. This will bring mind, body, and spirit into harmony. We begin this new awareness by being in the present moment. The mind is rarely in the moment, but the body is. So we can tune in to the body and notice our breathing, notice the play of emotions and where we feel them. Not judging or defining, but a “being with”. We are emanating all the time. Our thoughts and emotions move outward like ripples in a pond, touching and attracting like-vibrations in others. When we learn that we have a choice about what we emanate, we can choose to remember that we are deserving of love, and those ripples of love will touch us all.

© 2002 Kevin Fortune

Reprinted from Open Exchange magazine